Friendship - It does matter.

 In a world of virtual friendships, I wonder if we know what true friendship looks like. 

The other day I felt out of sorts and being a woman of a certain age, that isn't all that uncommon :) Nevertheless, I muddled through as best I could until I simply couldn't and in a moment of clarity, I texted a friend. This friend said "call me" then sat on the phone for over 2 hours with me just shooting the breeze, but they were not done. The following morning my friend came to visit just to check in. The entire situation got me thinking, so I asked myself the following...

On the list of those I call friends, how many would drop everything to be there if I needed them?

And on the list of those I call friends, how many would I drop everything for, to be there if they needed me?

We have to be realistic right, dropping everything is easier said than done. Still, do people today bother to take the time to be there for someone else? Not to gain something or to be nosey but simply because they care. I honestly believe that this is the sign of friendship, not likes, followers or tweets but being present, sharing time, thoughts, moments, listening with intent and purpose. 

If you know me, you know that this was merely the beginning, so needless to say I asked myself another question... 

Could the alternative be a selfish distant cousin to friendship? 

Let me expand on that.

Though I believe that true friendship can be found in any environment be it professional, social or personal and can as a result be a catalyst for growth. More often than not people today align themselves with others merely to reap the benefit. Not because they care about the individual but rather because they see them as a connection that can be utilized to climb the perpetual ladders of our selfie world.

What I concluded is this: 

I am blessed to have a Friend! The fact is I have more than one but in a world such as we live in today, one is all you truly need. 

That said, my advice to you is this. You may be the one for someone else so even if you don't get a text, remember that your friendship makes a difference. So be sure to listen, be present, share your time, thoughts, moments and most importantly, do it all with purpose and intent. If we're lucky it may become the next big thing. 

 K.E.C

aka Deo Volente

8/12/2023

Reflection of grief.

 I find that I am weary

this day so bright yet dreary

has crept into my soul with sigh

drowning hope with burning cry

a scream to echo, why!

But this is not a question friend

it is I fear the woe of end

that wraps around in tune

with tears to follow soon.

Where darkness keeps the light at bay

and what should be, now dare I say

eludes the bleeding heart

miles and miles apart.

I kiss the night with every hope 

and pray that on this wretched rope 

my faith will not run dry

until the day I die.

So as I look up at each star

I wonder friend, which one you are, 

for you were like no other ...

I love you still, my brother. 

K.E.C

aka Deo Volente

August 12, 2023.